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A Wedding Sermon:Genesis 2:18-24

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This is my favourite Wedding Sermon. This is what I will say at the Wedding of any of my children, though by then they will know it (including the jokes) by heart.

You may have heard people say, “Marriage is made in Heaven”. To this one wag responded, “So is thunder and lightning“. All joking aside, I believe with all my heart that no Christian marriage is ordinary. Every Christian marriage is “made in Heaven”.


Firstly, Marriage is “made In Heaven” because God made all things including marriage.

Genesis says, “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth” (Gen. 1:1). God is the one who made everything. He is the one who made man and woman for marriage. He is the one who creates the bond that makes the two “one flesh” in marriage (Gen. 2:24).

Just as God is sovereign – he reigns as king – over the universe which he has made, we should acknowledge his kingship over our lives and over our marriage. In any marriage there will be times of conflict but we should recognise that our marriage was made in heaven and resolve the conflict not by doing it “his way” or “her way” but by seeking to do it God’s way through following Jesus Christ.

This is the only foundation for any truly Christian marriage.


Secondly, marriage is “made In Heaven” because God made Eve and brought her to Adam.

We are told, “The Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man” (v. 22).

Adam was able to say, in a way that no other man has been able to since: “Eve you’re the only woman for me”. Yet God could have made Eve, set her loose in the Garden and then waited for Adam and Eve to find each other. He did not. Instead “he brought her to the man” (v. 22).

In the same way I believe all Christian marriages are made in heaven. A man and a woman don’t just bang into each other – God brings them together.

Actually some people think that if God brings two people together marriage should be easy. That isn’t so. God brings two people together so each can make the other a better person. That isn’t easy, but it does make us better people and one of the primary reasons God made marriage was that we might be better people and better able to serve him together.


Thirdly, marriage is “made In Heaven” because our vows are recorded by Heaven.

Notice what Adam said when Eve was brought for him: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, ‘ for she was taken out of man” (v. 23). He did not say, “You are now bone of my bones”, but “This is now bone of my bones”. He was talking to God not to Eve. His assumption was that God had provided him a wife. He was publicly and gratefully acknowledging his acceptance of God’s gracious provision for him.

A marriage ceremony itself is not what makes a marriage. But it is an important part of any marriage. In Christian marriage there are three parties: The man, the woman and God. Before God you publicly and gratefully declare your acceptance of each other as God’s gracious provision for one another. You are saying, “She belongs to me and I belong to her.” “He belongs to me and I belong to him.” God hears this and makes it so.


Marriage is more than a Wedding Service. Relationships need work over time. At the beginning we might expect a new husband to bound effortlessly from the bed, throw back the curtains and exclaim to his woman, “Lo, the morn”. Over time the passion can dissipate. Perhaps the wife will drag herself out from under the blankets, pull the curtain and say, “Mow the lawn”.

We need to learn to live together – as man and wife. James says, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). One of the best things you can do for the future of your marriage is to maintain a spirit of thankfulness. Every day give thanks for your partner and avoid being critical. If you need God’s help for this then ask!

Again, this is a great foundation for any marriage. There is much more you can learn, from God’s book, the Bible, now that God has brought you together.


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December 16, 2009 at 1:47 pm

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